Husband and wife are the only ones in the home who have the influence to create stability within the family. A selfish husband or wife interrupts the stability. This causes feelings of resentment, mistrust, and inadequacy. Failure to check on ones' selfishness, may lead to separation in not just the marriage, but the entire family unit.
These are two difficulties in correcting selfishness: People that tend to act more selfish are not usually aware of it, thus overcoming the problem can be a challenge. People that tend to act more humble usually have selflessness limits; when they are pushed past their threshold, their weakness shows.
Consider these few questions
1. Where do you show a sense of entitlement?
2. When do you criticize or think critically of you spouse?
3. How often do you talk about yourself?
4. Are you lazy?
5. Do you avoid responsibility?
6. How do you react to criticism?
7. Are you sensitive to your spouse?
8. Do you show complete fidelity?
9. Do you put your children before your spouse?
10. Do you withhold your love, affection, or trust
from your spouse on any occasion-- even if they
make a mistake?
"Nobody knows you as well as our spouse. And that means no one will be quicker to recognize a change when you deliberately start sacrificing your wants and wishes to make sure his or her needs are met. ”--Stephen Kendrick, The Love Dare
Selfishness destroys marriages. Reflect so that you can disinfect. Happy and long lasting couples are not perfect, but they consistently try to put their spouse first. They nurture the needs of each other, and the children follow suite. Be selfless in your marriage. This is my Address.