An Address on Fathers
In the process of writing a paper for my Family Relations class, I came across some findings regarding the importance of fathers within the household. Now I am not trying to say that mothers do not matter, but I do believe that people tend to dismiss the roles of fatherhood which do not include providing a house to live in and food to eat at the table.
Here are the findings:
(http://yrm.org/fathers-scriptural-leadership.htm)
-63 percent of young people who commit suicide are from fatherless homes.
-85 percent of children who exhibit behavioral disorders are from fatherless homes.
-80 percent of rapists are from fatherless homes.
-71 percent of high school dropouts are from fatherless homes.
-75 percent of all adolescent patients in chemical-abuse centers are from fatherless homes.
-70 percent of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes.
-85 percent of youth in prison are from fatherless homes.
-70 of pregnant teens are from fatherless homes.
So what is it about fathers that protect children from these statistics?
I have a few conclusions. First of all, I believe being a father offers emotional stability for children. Not all fathers are the same, and I am not saying that mothers do not do this at all, but fathers tend to push more for achievement. This leads to many learning experiences that children need to face at some point such as success and failure. In the long run, children build more confidence because they know their limits. Secondly, fathers often show love to their children’s mother. (Obviously not always.) Regarding this, I would like to share a piece of my paper:
“A father has the role to love his children’s mother. Not only because it shows the example of love, but because it keeps children confident with their father. A father does this only by consistently showing reverence and respect in addition to fidelity toward his wife. “Pornography, flirtations, and unwholesome fantasies erode one’s character and strike at the foundation of a happy marriage. Unity and trust within a marriage are thereby destroyed” (Hunter 1994). Children, even if they don’t understand that infidelity has taken place, can sense that there is a lack of trust and unity in their parent’s marriage—even at a very young age. This affects not only their own trust in their family, but also the feeling of security and stability within the home.”
In the process of writing a paper for my Family Relations class, I came across some findings regarding the importance of fathers within the household. Now I am not trying to say that mothers do not matter, but I do believe that people tend to dismiss the roles of fatherhood which do not include providing a house to live in and food to eat at the table.
Here are the findings:
(http://yrm.org/fathers-scriptural-leadership.htm)
-63 percent of young people who commit suicide are from fatherless homes.
-85 percent of children who exhibit behavioral disorders are from fatherless homes.
-80 percent of rapists are from fatherless homes.
-71 percent of high school dropouts are from fatherless homes.
-75 percent of all adolescent patients in chemical-abuse centers are from fatherless homes.
-70 percent of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes.
-85 percent of youth in prison are from fatherless homes.
-70 of pregnant teens are from fatherless homes.
So what is it about fathers that protect children from these statistics?
I have a few conclusions. First of all, I believe being a father offers emotional stability for children. Not all fathers are the same, and I am not saying that mothers do not do this at all, but fathers tend to push more for achievement. This leads to many learning experiences that children need to face at some point such as success and failure. In the long run, children build more confidence because they know their limits. Secondly, fathers often show love to their children’s mother. (Obviously not always.) Regarding this, I would like to share a piece of my paper:
“A father has the role to love his children’s mother. Not only because it shows the example of love, but because it keeps children confident with their father. A father does this only by consistently showing reverence and respect in addition to fidelity toward his wife. “Pornography, flirtations, and unwholesome fantasies erode one’s character and strike at the foundation of a happy marriage. Unity and trust within a marriage are thereby destroyed” (Hunter 1994). Children, even if they don’t understand that infidelity has taken place, can sense that there is a lack of trust and unity in their parent’s marriage—even at a very young age. This affects not only their own trust in their family, but also the feeling of security and stability within the home.”